Now we could dwell on the fact that these various winners are not gym-sculpted Adonnises themselves, but instead I want to focus on the positive and work on people’s lives instead of trying to stroke the hate-boner.
Besides, the best revenge is living well and there’s nothing quite like seeing the underdog succeed despite all of his or her disadvantages. The cognitive dissonance Now, I’m going to be blunt: dating can suck when you’re fat.
But my sister didn’t share this video on her Facebook page to garner laughs from her friends and family.
It was quite the opposite, actually: my sister was angry at the round’s subject and the subsequent answers given.
KC Slack, of the podcast Bad Fat Broads, and Ali Thompson, of blog Ok2Be Fat, started discussing the story on Twitter via their respective handles (@femmina and @Artists_Ali).
They began a conversation about how we as a society aren’t interested in hearing similar stories when the person wronged is actually fat.“Ali and I started talking about it and I was thinking…if they want stories about shitty date behavior, fat folks have them in excess,” KC tells me via email.
Fat romance has little space in popular culture beyond the punchline.
The idea of being a fat person who is happily dating in public creates really strong feelings in people.
But being large and in charge doesn’t mean that you’re doomed to a life of being forever alone; in fact, you may find that you have far more options for finding love, sex and happiness than you’d ever believe possible. There are plenty of notable examples out there if you look around. Seth Rogan is no Abercrombie and Fitch model but he’s also happily married.
I talked to the three individuals who played a role in starting the hashtag about why.
The story begins in early August, when a tale of one woman’s response to a Tinder date who told her his “mind gets turned on my [sic] someone slimmer” went viral.
Large dudes will frequently lament that their size automatically disqualifies them from dating – they believe that there is simply no way a woman could possibly like somebody who’s body isn’t rippled and shiny like a buttered ear of corn. Kevin Smith, for all of his fashion sins that I will get into in a second, is happily married with a lovely wife and daughter. It’s easy to forget this when the TV and magazines are showing you nothing but image after image of cut, veiny men with swimmers builds with women draped all over them like fur stoles, but women actually like a far wider range of body types than we’d think.
Ask five women what their ideal male build is and you’ll get six different answers.